You’re engaged to a great guy, your family loves him and you love his family.. But sometimes we have that one friend who is unpredictable with her reactions. Few brides can recount tales about how they dreaded breaking the news to their bestie that they were proposed too. Few brides also can recount how their besties weren’t happy for their new ‘wedding’ bliss upon telling them the news. Well bride to be let me tell you that you are not alone, as I’m experiencing this at the moment. Friendships are important, and they are an integral part of life. Humans are social creatures after-all and we all enjoy having someone to conversate with. When my then boyfriend, now current Fiancé proposed I was stunned and so happy! I broke the news to my family slowly and flashed some engagement ring pics to my female cousins to share the news. But at the back of my mind the person I dreaded telling the most was my best friend.
She’s a sensitive soul, and well I won’t right about her character, but I absolutely adore her. However I always have a hard time telling her about my happiness and when I do share something happy (on occasion) she gives me the silent treatment, so it’s often best to avoid subjects pertaining to love. Well this time I decided to call her after sharing my news to just talk about how things are going and at the end she basically brushed me off said ‘congrats’ without enquiring about any details (like she used to when we would have boy talks growing up as young & dumb teens). She didn’t even want to know how he proposed, which everyone in my family said was the most romantic and elaborate way they’ve ever heard (because my fam isn’t so romantic tbh). My Fiancé is incredible..I’m not trying to brag, and I apologize for sounding show offy.
Anyways at the end of the conversation she told me she was too busy, and insinuated that I was a distraction in her life. Although she often would get upset if we didn’t spend as much time as we used to when we were young, and recently we’ve been on amazing terms. Think late night messaging, and many coffee dates. So what set off this cold shoulder? I’m not sure, I just know that she seemed unhappy, and I could make up a million reasons to justify her actions/ unhappy tone..in my own mind..but that’s unfair to her and I won’t share my suspicions because I could be wrong!
I will just say that it would be a shame to lose your best friend, because you are now with the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, who can also fulfill a lot of that ‘best friend’ role. My advice for all of you who are in my position is that you should give your friend some space, (if she’s someone you don’t want to lose), and try to contact them again to feel them out. I wish all of you good luck, feel better and don’t start any unnecessary arguments because right now it’s your time to enjoy something different, new and exciting,and you shouldn’t have to feel bad for being in a new life situation that makes you happy.